How to Win Friends and Influence People
Six Ways to Make People Like you. If you want
people to like you............
Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
"Do this and you will welcome anywhere."
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in years by trying to get other people interested in you."
"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
Reflection: The first step to making friends is showing you actually want to get to know them. Ask questions about them so you could know more about them. Showing that your actually interested to getting to know them will get you more friends.
Rule 2: Smile
"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. you make me happy. I am glad to see you."
"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) or friends."
Reflection: The second step of making people like you is to just always smile and be happy. No one likes a downer, always mad or grumpy. Just smile while speaking with new people. Like first impressions always count. So if you want to make a good first impression then just smile.
Rule 3: Remember names
"A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Reflection: The third step of making people like you is remembering there names, like always remember someones name cause its pretty messed up when they say hi and your name and then you say hi back but you don't know there name because you forgot it. Like you make people feel like sad when you don't remember your name but they remember yours. Make people feel good by always remembering there name.
How to remember names:
- remember how they look
- know them by what they like to do
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener"
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested to himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."
Reflection: The fourth step to making people to like you is always being a good listener. Let the person your talking speak more of them than you speaking more of yourself. Always pay attention to them when talking because if you don't they won't like you. Have interest in them, learn about there life or there childhood or what they want be when they grow up. There's many things you could learn about them but just pay attention to them.
5 Tips for active listening
1) Stay focused, keep natural eye contact, and be patients.
2) Really listen, don't think about similar experiences and think about what to say next
3) Allow periods of silence, wait until the other person had just said or paraphrase them.
4) From time to time repeat what the other person had just said or paraphrase them.
5) Understand the emotion behind their words, when you paraphrase also try to express the emotion behind their words.
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Reflection: The fifth step to making people like you is to talk about what the persons interest are. Try to find things you guys have in common. Make facial expressions and be really interested in the conversation. `
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
Reflection: The sixth and final step to making people like you is to make the other person feel special. Treat them with respect, ask them how there doing and how there feeling about certain things.
Reflection: These six ways have taught me to to care about others besides yourself. Like to make more friends or for people to like you, you have to be more considerate of others. I feel like these six ways will help you make people like you because yes listening to someone will make them like you but also that they like that you pay attention to them and hear them out, instead of always talking or thinking about yourself.
Rule 2: Smile
"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. you make me happy. I am glad to see you."
"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) or friends."
Reflection: The second step of making people like you is to just always smile and be happy. No one likes a downer, always mad or grumpy. Just smile while speaking with new people. Like first impressions always count. So if you want to make a good first impression then just smile.
Rule 3: Remember names "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Reflection: The third step of making people like you is remembering there names, like always remember someones name cause its pretty messed up when they say hi and your name and then you say hi back but you don't know there name because you forgot it. Like you make people feel like sad when you don't remember your name but they remember yours. Make people feel good by always remembering there name.
How to remember names:
- remember how they look
- know them by what they like to do
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. "If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener"
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested to himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."
Reflection: The fourth step to making people to like you is always being a good listener. Let the person your talking speak more of them than you speaking more of yourself. Always pay attention to them when talking because if you don't they won't like you. Have interest in them, learn about there life or there childhood or what they want be when they grow up. There's many things you could learn about them but just pay attention to them.
5 Tips for active listening
1) Stay focused, keep natural eye contact, and be patients.
2) Really listen, don't think about similar experiences and think about what to say next
3) Allow periods of silence, wait until the other person had just said or paraphrase them.
4) From time to time repeat what the other person had just said or paraphrase them.
5) Understand the emotion behind their words, when you paraphrase also try to express the emotion behind their words.
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Reflection: The fifth step to making people like you is to talk about what the persons interest are. Try to find things you guys have in common. Make facial expressions and be really interested in the conversation. `
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely."The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
Reflection: The sixth and final step to making people like you is to make the other person feel special. Treat them with respect, ask them how there doing and how there feeling about certain things.
Reflection: These six ways have taught me to to care about others besides yourself. Like to make more friends or for people to like you, you have to be more considerate of others. I feel like these six ways will help you make people like you because yes listening to someone will make them like you but also that they like that you pay attention to them and hear them out, instead of always talking or thinking about yourself.
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